Why People Leave Boquete

July 18, 2008 · 8 Comments

When I was a Pastor in growing churches we had two concerns: the front door and the back door.  The concern with the front door was that it be open and welcoming to everyone, churched and unchurched.  The front door involved publicity, promotion, greeting, welcoming, making people feel at home, getting them involved, having them attend membership classes and become active and involved members of the church.  But a church can take hordes of people in the front door, and not grow if other people are going out the back door.  People tend to leave churches when they don’t feel a meaningful part of the church family and when their needs are not being met, be it day care, spiritual nurture, parking, whatever.  So to build a growing church you needed to keep the front door open and the back door closed as much as possible.

Lots of people are deciding to pick up and move to Panama, and specifically to Boquete.  But, just like church, not all of these people stay.  While many are coming in the front door, some are leaving out the back door.  So it has always interested me to know not only what brings folks to Boquete, but why they leave.  I wish someone would do a study on this!  But here are some of my own pondering . . . 

There are the Perpetual Adventurers- Let’s face it, picking up and moving to a foreign country requires a certain sense of adventure!  Some folks we know have left Boquete and moved elsewhere because that’s just the kind of people they are.  They are always looking for another place . . . maybe another spot of the world that hasn’t yet been “discovered” and where property is still ridiculously low priced.  There are some folks who the moment they move to Boquete are already scouring International Living and the Net and looking for the next “hot” place to move.

There are those whose relationship is already on the rocks – Moving is always a high stress event, and moving to a new country with a new language, new customs, new mores is even more high stress.  Folks who thought that making a new start in a new country might “fix” things soon find out it doesn’t work that way.  The stress is greater so, like a tiny crack in the windshield, the cracks in the relationship are soon going in multiple directions.  Plus, for a lot of folks, moving to Panama is breaking out of the mold, or rut if you will, of the traditional commute, 9 to 5 job, social obligations, family expectations – whatever.  Suddenly feeling free, and frequently knowing that this is the last big adventure of life . . . folks break loose . . . one stays, one heads back to the states, or they both move on in elsewhere in different directions.

There are those who didn’t do their homework in the first place- If you came to Panama looking to shop every other day at the Galleria, or expect museums, openings, Broadway, and symphonies in Boquete, or want a tennis club, US-style country club, shopping at Pavillions or Bristol Farms, or a 30-screen cineplex  . . . well you ain’t going to find it in Boquete!  So why are you surprised?  Didn’t you do your homework? 

There are those for whom the novelty wears off- Let’s face it: you chuck off everything in the States and move to Panama!  It has a certain excitement and novelty to live in a new country where everything seems different.  But after two, or three, or four years the novelty wears off, and you begin to miss the familiar and the comfortable feel of wherever “home” used to be.  You get homesick for Home Depot, Bed, Bath & Beyond, Wal Mart and even the bureaucracy of the DMV where at least they – usually – speak English.

There are those who came to make a killing . . . and don’t – For some Panama was seen as an opportunity to get rich quick as the world’s attention focused here and real estate and condo speculation was manic.  Everyone saw the opportunity for instant cash: just buy a farm cheap, throw in a road and sell lots to unsuspecting foreigners like yourself.  Well things rarely work out that way.  There is still great opportunity in Panama, but the day of the “fast buck” is disappearing quickly.  Scam artists are gradually being sent back home, either by being rooted out by Panamanian authorities or being extradited back to authorities in their own countries.

There are those who don’t like the weather- Some folks never bothered to check the weather.  Living in a rain forest is incredibly beautiful, but, guess what?  It rains!  A lot!  Particularly at certain times of the year.  And that isn’t for everyone.  There have been a lot of friends for whom Boquete is too cool and too wet and so they have left, not to go back to the States, but for beach areas where its a lot hotter and there is a lot less rain.

Panama isn’t the “tax haven” people thought it was – Yes, Panama, like every place in the world has taxes!  The taxes may come in different forms, like fees, etc., but they are there none-the-less.  Almost everything from the states is MORE expensive here because it has to be shipped in and is charged duty and tax (on the value of the item plus the cost of shipping).  As Panama moves from being a second world country to a first world country the government is becoming more computerized making it harder for those who would seek to avoid taxes illegally.  But, as anywhere, there are ways to legally minimize your taxes, but there are taxes.  Panama does not tax on income earned outside Panama. But, guess what, the long arm of the IRS reaches into Panama.  US citizens are taxed on everything, anywhere in the world.  But, if your permanent residence is outside the US, and your income is earned outside the US, and presumably outside Panama if you want to avoid Panamanian tax, the IRS does give you a generous break.

“I’m not ready to retire . . . what I really needed was a Sabbatical”- My wife helped me define this after talking with a friend who was returning to Atlanta saying, “I still have ten years that I could be working!”  Nikki has sometimes said, “I feel guilty . . . like I should be doing something . . . like I should be contributing.”  I find myself scouring potential cruise jobs, not that I want to leave Boquete, but I sometimes want to be back in “the action” for a few months of the year.  This isn’t anything unique to living in Boquete, it’s just a challenge of retirement.  Perhaps more of a challenge to boomers than it was to past generations.

“S*** Happens!”  Life changes- Some people’s lives change dramatically.  Aging parents back in the states suddenly require more direct attention and involvement.  Properties back home don’t sell as expected.  Businesses you thought you left in good hands suddenly need direct involvement.  Spouses die and what was once your dream of a life together in Panama now rings hollow.  One or another partner develops a medical condition best faced in the company of family and familiar medical resources and/or Medicare assistance. 

When our new house in Palmira is finished (”Please God!), we will be living on the road to the tiny cemetary in Palmira.  My wife has informed me that she is “not moving again!”  She has made it clear that her next move will be in a pine box, where she doesn’t have to pack anything, to the cemetery down the road.  Well, that’s our plan . . . now.  But, as Heraclitus pointed out, “We are living in a world of constant change.”  Things do change.  People change.  Plans change.  And because of that, not everybody will stay in Boquete.

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8 responses so far ↓

  • don // July 23, 2008 at 8:41 am

    Richard,

    Are you suggesting that Boquete is a bit boring, and can get depressing – - with all that rain?

    Can you elaborate a bit more about the weather, especially the humidity? When is the best time of the year to spend several months in your area?

    Is air conditioning and heating needed? Is mold a problem? How do people with sinsus problems and allergies do in Boquete? Or, should they move up the mountain, or go to the other side?

    Is the trip back and forth to David a pleasant trip, or a hassle? It is nice to enjoy the stimulation of a city once in a while.

    Don
    Holland, Michigan USA

    Don!!! “Boring . . . depressing . . . all that rain”??? And you live in Holland, Michigan!!? Listen, I spent 4 winters in Holland (Western Seminary) and I know all about “boring . . . depressing . . . and SNOW!! . . . tons of it!” I know all about “Lake effect”! Sorry, but I couldn’t resist, and I promise I will get around to answering your questions. Just how exciting can De Zwann be?? (De Zwann is the authentic, Dutch windmill in Holland, Michigan imported from the Netherlands. For excitement you can watch it go round and round and round!) And my wife says, and I quote, ‘Tell him I grew up there and couldn’t wait to get out!’ She said it, I didn’t.)

    More later, Regards, Richard

  • Annette // July 29, 2008 at 10:01 pm

    It is an interesting question and you have provided some good and funny answers! Very fun blog entry.

    We now have a computer business which will allow us to live anywhere – now in Washington State, 3rd generation, though we have traveled much. Kids in college.

    For six months or so we have been thinking about Panama. My heart was broken last September when I fell in love with Portugal, but the dollar sucks too much to make the move to “Euroland”, even relatively low cost Portugal.

    We are now thinking of flying to Panama in March for a “front door” tour.

    However, Los Altos del Maria maybe makes more sense to us because we could visit the beach to surf, which is said to be minimum 30 minutes from that area. ? We also might look at El Valle.

    We will also go to Boquete, because we may like it much better – who knows? I’d love to ride horses and my husband golfs.

    What type of “back door” would I fall into? Of the ones you covered: I may miss the USA in general and even my rainy home state as I have a fierce love of my kids, friends, relatives, deceased here…not to mention Direct TV, Netflix, Vietnamese food, Korean food, my excellent regional library. I believe I am flexible, though, so we shall see!

    Annette, You won’t miss the rain in Washington since we have plenty! Also we have Direct TV. You miss some things . . . but we have things here that I miss dearly when I go back to the states, like, at least in Boquete, a very tranquil lifestyle. The only real way to evaluate is to come down and check it out. Regards, Richard

  • Diana Boase // July 29, 2008 at 10:07 pm

    From my observation, it is not until you have made the move and experienced the lifestyle, experienced the differences (more than a few months) and the real challenges, that any individual can judge and accept or reject the way of life here in Panama.

    Boquete (if considered as a separate entity) (which I think it should be) seems to be on the surface, the paradise that so many retirees are looking for. The climate cooler and the views of Volcan Baru and surrounding landscape is stunning. Boquete is marketed as “the place to be” It is where so many have invested a lot of money, time and Patience!!! It is where so many have made it their home, or invested for the future. It is the place that boasts many housing developments, hotels, sporting and leisure activities and is one of the biggest tourist destinations here in Latin America.

    It is a place where people have chosen to live in the safety of numbers, behind bars and security gates, in gated communities and advertised that they were not wanting to integrate and had something the local people could only dream of. Many have fallen victim of the common “Gringo Bingo” where they have been charged greater sums of money for products or services than others. Many local people see us as an opportunity and feel there is much money to be made or just a little to supplement a pitiful income, as rich Americans/Europeans flaunt their previous lifestyle expectations in their faces.

    Many come here with the thought that they can have their cake and eat it but we will not change this 3rd world country to the one we left behind and why should we? We are actually responsible for how things progress and should realise that before we try to change this country into the one we have escaped from, we need to take stock of what there is here and how we should preserve that which we love about it. There is without doubt the need for patience here and I think that many are so used to the fast pace they have left behind, that the exceedingly slow pace here is intolerable. I think the weather has little to do with it as there are so many climates to be found within a few short miles of each other and this is a common excuse for a reason to leave.

    I think in reality, for many of us, it is way out from our comfort zone and the old rules no longer apply

  • Scott // July 31, 2008 at 7:51 pm

    Great blog! I find the content thoughtful and the comments as well.

    Keep it up and thanks!

    Scott

  • Paul // July 31, 2008 at 8:39 pm

    Think of the best places to live on earth. Now tell me what’s the percentage of people that relocate there and then move out after a while. I bet the percentage is similar to the people that move to Boquete or any other place in Panama and later move out.

    Get a grip!

    Paul, read the entire post. There’s nothing “wrong” with Boquete . . . just that some folks come here with the wrong expectations or stuff in their lives change . . . and they leave. Happens everywhere. The more people have the whole picture of life here, or anywhere else they are considering, the happier they will be when they make the move. Regards, Richard

  • Jeff // August 10, 2008 at 1:22 pm

    Great post Dick! We love it here in Boquete but I’m sure it isn’t for everyone. Before moving here, we did tons of research and talked to people living here. We also visited twice. What we found is what we expected. I was worried about being bored but I realized life is what you make it….here or in the U.S. or elsewhere. If you don’t have hobbies and activites you enjoy; if you don’t get involved, if you don’t know how to amuse yourslf; if you don’t develop friendships, yes, you will be bored. On the other hand, you might just have the time of your life and more friends than you ever had in the U.S. For us it has been a great experience and we’ve lived here just over two years.

  • Liz // August 12, 2008 at 3:34 pm

    Great Blog Richard, and comments likewise. I believe that no matter where you are it’s all in your attitude. You are going to be happy or sad anywhere you are. It’s up to you. I agree that research and visiting before deciding is probably a very good idea for anyplace, however, spontaneous is fun too. If you have problems, running away will not solve them, it will probably get worse. I’ve heard many people talk of isolation and loneliness, boredom, cold, rainy, and all the bad; but I’ve also heard many people talking about perfect weather, great place for fun, tons to do, great people and all the good. That happens everywhere. Once again your attitude makes a difference. There is a ton to do here for all ages, and it is beautiful. No matter where you go in the world you will have tribulations to encounter and imperfections to deal with. If you are somewhat picky then yes, do your research, and don’t come if you think you should change things here because it’s not perfect. If you are a free spirit and can deal with change and don’t want to change the place you are going to then Panama is an incredible place to be. Don’t forget about Culture. It’s different here. Thinking you are better than someone won’t get you far. If you have a lot of money and that is your base of life remember it may buy you happiness for a while but eventually you will discover that if money is your priority you won’t be happy here. There are deals everywhere in Panama but don’t abuse it either. No matter what your fancy, there is plenty here to keep most anyone happy and if there isn’t, then create it yourself, because there is plenty of room for expansion here in Boquete. From my own experience “This is the Life”.

  • Panama Canuck // August 19, 2008 at 3:50 pm

    Great article, Richard! Always enjoy your writing style, wit and insights. Being from Canada, where life is certainly more organized, if that is the right word, yes, I miss some things, like a good steak.

    Panama’s slower pace and charming people can also be a source of frustration at times, but it’s their country and the reason we all came here, so we go down a dangerous path if we try to make them more like “us”. As a contractor I miss going into Home Depot and having my choice of many different products to solve certain problems, but this will change naturally according to market demand and not because we try to impose some perceived higher standard on Panama.

    Personally, the only thing I could wish for is a clearer direction from the government that we really do want us to live here and not just be perpetual tourists. I believe many more ExPats who are not ready for retirement would chose Panama if they felt that they were welcome to live here, invest in the country and create jobs in the process, which can only serve to benefit all Panamanians. The recent changes to the immigration laws, such as doing away with the small business Visa, suggests they only want the very rich to live here, which does little to offer real opportunities to Panamanians. Maybe the new government will set a clearer course.

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